Sunday, May 17, 2015
Lately, mom has little "accidents."
Usually it is a wet fart and she has a stain on her underwear that needs to be washed.
This morning she said she couldn't remember where the toilet was and she had an accident.
It happened in the washroom. She got to the right room, but then got confused about where to sit and while she was trying to figure this out, she had an accident.
Sunday, June 21, 2015
This morning I asked mom to change her underpants.
She showed me that her pants were soiled.
There was some poop on her pants.
I put the soiled pants in the sink and ran cold water.
I got some moist bum wipes and gave them to mom to wipe her bum.
I was surprised that I didn't smell anything.
I wonder if my sense of smell is going.
Saturday, August 8, 2015
I found a wet nightie and undershirt in mom's bathroom.
I wonder if she had soiled them and then tried to clean them.
Sunday, August 16, 2015
Mom woke up several times in the night to go to the washroom.
Yesterday afternoon she thought the washroom was in my bedroom so I was kind of worried, but everything was fine.
Sunday, August 23, 2015
When I went to take a bath, I saw some stains in my bathtub that smelt like pee.
I wonder if mom peed in the bath tub?
Sunday, 17 May 2015
Friday, 15 May 2015
Exercise
Friday, May 15, 2015
Mom goes for walks.
Today after lunch, I asked her take to the garbage out while I was doing the dishes.
She was gone for about 20 minutes.
She told me that she decided to go for a walk around the block.
That's great, but I was a little worried. Sometimes she runs into someone downstairs and chats.
Wednesday, May 20, 2015, 7:45 p.m.
Just called mom. She said she had just come back from her walk. Yikes! I told her it was a good thing she didn't get lost and she giggled. She seems to be in good spirits.
Sunday, June 14, 2015.
Mom and I went for a walk. Mom walked around the block and then stopped before we got her building. She said she was tired so I thought she would continue home, but she looped back around again.
Tuesday, August 4, 2015
Mom and I went for a walk after dinner. We took the stairs down and took the stairs up. Mom can go up the stairs faster than me.
Saturday, August 15, 2015
Mom seems quite stiff lately and complains about pain in your lower back.
I think it's because she sits and falls asleep.
I try to get her to lie down.
I try and get her to do exercise.
When we first start our exercise she says she feels pain, but soon she says she feels fine.
Then, she says she is tired and lies down.
Monday, August 24, 2015
I called mom at 7:30 p.m. to tell her that she was going to New Vista tomorrow. She said that she had just gotten back from a walk. She seemed out of breath. I hope she remembers to put her key back.
Monday, August 31, 2015
I'm doing exercises with mom.
She says her fingers are stiff.
She's still in pretty good shape.
I think I get just as tired from the workout as she does.
In fact, she kicks her leg higher than I do.
Sunday, September 13th, 2015
Mom enjoys her finger exercises.
I do "rain" and "pachi-pachi" (blinking lights).
She doesn't like to crouch down or go onto the floor, but once she's there, she is fine.
Mom goes for walks.
Today after lunch, I asked her take to the garbage out while I was doing the dishes.
She was gone for about 20 minutes.
She told me that she decided to go for a walk around the block.
That's great, but I was a little worried. Sometimes she runs into someone downstairs and chats.
Wednesday, May 20, 2015, 7:45 p.m.
Just called mom. She said she had just come back from her walk. Yikes! I told her it was a good thing she didn't get lost and she giggled. She seems to be in good spirits.
Sunday, June 14, 2015.
Mom and I went for a walk. Mom walked around the block and then stopped before we got her building. She said she was tired so I thought she would continue home, but she looped back around again.
Tuesday, August 4, 2015
Mom and I went for a walk after dinner. We took the stairs down and took the stairs up. Mom can go up the stairs faster than me.
Saturday, August 15, 2015
Mom seems quite stiff lately and complains about pain in your lower back.
I think it's because she sits and falls asleep.
I try to get her to lie down.
I try and get her to do exercise.
When we first start our exercise she says she feels pain, but soon she says she feels fine.
Then, she says she is tired and lies down.
Monday, August 24, 2015
I called mom at 7:30 p.m. to tell her that she was going to New Vista tomorrow. She said that she had just gotten back from a walk. She seemed out of breath. I hope she remembers to put her key back.
Monday, August 31, 2015
I'm doing exercises with mom.
She says her fingers are stiff.
She's still in pretty good shape.
I think I get just as tired from the workout as she does.
In fact, she kicks her leg higher than I do.
Sunday, September 13th, 2015
Mom enjoys her finger exercises.
I do "rain" and "pachi-pachi" (blinking lights).
She doesn't like to crouch down or go onto the floor, but once she's there, she is fine.
Sunday, 10 May 2015
My brother
I feel like I am doing so much and he is doing so little.
I am grateful that he has dinner with mom twice a week. He usually buys take out.
But...I have dinner with mom twice a week and I have her on the weekends. I usually cook something.
I do most of the doctor's appointments as in he does maybe twice a year and I do all the rest. I do all the hair appointments.
I do most of the grocery shopping as in 99%.
I do all her laundry, clean her bathroom, etc.
I even wash her hair and cut her nails.
I write all the cheques.
I do all the banking.
I found all our part-time help. I placed ads, I made phone calls, I interviewed.
If he goes on vacation, I make sure that someone is there to cover for him. When I go on vacation, I make sure that everything is looked after.
This time when he springs on me that he will be away the May long weekend and miss his turn, I suggest he find someone to cover for him. I even give him a list of possibilities. What does he say? Mom will be fine. Asshole!
So he finally calls someone on the list and gets lucky the first time. He actually found someone to make lunch for mom on the long weekend. It was so easy for him. Usually I can't find anyone so I have to cover.
Since it was the AH's birthday I treated him to dinner and also mom because it was Mother's Day. He didn't even acknowledge Mother's Day. We went back to mom's place for cake. He just sat there like a bump on a log, while I did all the preparations and clean up. Not just because it was his birthday, but like always.
Monday, May 25, 2015
Called AH to confirm for this Sunday. He said that I could drop mom off at his place if I had an errand downtown. I sent him an e-mail, but I wanted to confirm. He wants me to use text. Heck, I don't even know how to check my voice mail. I don't understand why he can't use e-mail.
Anyways he told me that he was making rice for tomorrow. That was great!
But then he got really upset when I said I would drop mom off around 10:00 a.m. and pick her up at 4:00 p.m. He brought up stuff from 30 years ago! I don't even understand how I got sucked into apologizing for something I did 30 years ago. I ruined his life because I called him a lazy, weightlifting bum or something like that. He said that he had taken mom and dad to the hospital many times and where was I. I don't remember. I remember that mom called the ambulance regularly. I remember going to the hospital with mom many times by taxi and staying most of the night and having to go to work the next day. I remember seeing a lot of specialists with mom. I don't remember too much about AH.
Anyhow, I can drop mom off from 10:00 and pick her up at 2:00.
Saturday, May 30, 2015
AH told me that everywhere was 5 minutes from his place.
I looked up the skytrain station that I thought was closest to him and it was 15 minutes.
He said he came from Granville.
I checked that station and it was 11. That's doable.
Sunday, May 31, 2015
We made it to my brother's without incident.
Mom was fine. She was excited to go to my brother's place although she thought it was far.
My brother had laundry ready for us to fold when we arrived.
I came back at 2:00 to collect mom.
She was fine.
Tuesday, August 18, 2015
I get a call from AH at work. He wants to know the name of the Chinese restaurant across the street from mom's. I tell him I'll give him the number and that was it. The last time, he made me call and order the food. Last time, I had to order and my phone died so I had to borrow one.
I am grateful that he has dinner with mom twice a week. He usually buys take out.
But...I have dinner with mom twice a week and I have her on the weekends. I usually cook something.
I do most of the doctor's appointments as in he does maybe twice a year and I do all the rest. I do all the hair appointments.
I do most of the grocery shopping as in 99%.
I do all her laundry, clean her bathroom, etc.
I even wash her hair and cut her nails.
I write all the cheques.
I do all the banking.
I found all our part-time help. I placed ads, I made phone calls, I interviewed.
If he goes on vacation, I make sure that someone is there to cover for him. When I go on vacation, I make sure that everything is looked after.
This time when he springs on me that he will be away the May long weekend and miss his turn, I suggest he find someone to cover for him. I even give him a list of possibilities. What does he say? Mom will be fine. Asshole!
So he finally calls someone on the list and gets lucky the first time. He actually found someone to make lunch for mom on the long weekend. It was so easy for him. Usually I can't find anyone so I have to cover.
Since it was the AH's birthday I treated him to dinner and also mom because it was Mother's Day. He didn't even acknowledge Mother's Day. We went back to mom's place for cake. He just sat there like a bump on a log, while I did all the preparations and clean up. Not just because it was his birthday, but like always.
Monday, May 25, 2015
Called AH to confirm for this Sunday. He said that I could drop mom off at his place if I had an errand downtown. I sent him an e-mail, but I wanted to confirm. He wants me to use text. Heck, I don't even know how to check my voice mail. I don't understand why he can't use e-mail.
Anyways he told me that he was making rice for tomorrow. That was great!
But then he got really upset when I said I would drop mom off around 10:00 a.m. and pick her up at 4:00 p.m. He brought up stuff from 30 years ago! I don't even understand how I got sucked into apologizing for something I did 30 years ago. I ruined his life because I called him a lazy, weightlifting bum or something like that. He said that he had taken mom and dad to the hospital many times and where was I. I don't remember. I remember that mom called the ambulance regularly. I remember going to the hospital with mom many times by taxi and staying most of the night and having to go to work the next day. I remember seeing a lot of specialists with mom. I don't remember too much about AH.
Anyhow, I can drop mom off from 10:00 and pick her up at 2:00.
Saturday, May 30, 2015
AH told me that everywhere was 5 minutes from his place.
I looked up the skytrain station that I thought was closest to him and it was 15 minutes.
He said he came from Granville.
I checked that station and it was 11. That's doable.
Sunday, May 31, 2015
We made it to my brother's without incident.
Mom was fine. She was excited to go to my brother's place although she thought it was far.
My brother had laundry ready for us to fold when we arrived.
I came back at 2:00 to collect mom.
She was fine.
Tuesday, August 18, 2015
I get a call from AH at work. He wants to know the name of the Chinese restaurant across the street from mom's. I tell him I'll give him the number and that was it. The last time, he made me call and order the food. Last time, I had to order and my phone died so I had to borrow one.
Tuesday, 5 May 2015
Sleeping
Weekend, May 2nd and 3rd, 2015
Mom slept a lot. She seems pretty dopey.
Saturday we went for dinner at Paradise Sushi. She used to like this restaurant and sometimes went there for lunch by herself after a doctor's appointment.
She asked me why I didn't take her to a nicer restaurant.
I washed her hair Sunday morning and it made her happy.
Sunday, June 21st, 2015
Mom is sleeping a lot this morning.
I believe her risperadone has been reduced and her aricept has been increased.
We had dinner with NS on Friday and mom seemed alert.
When I ordered koroke teishoku, which is her favourite dish, she complained that she ate the same thing all the time. She ate it all except for some rice. She told me that I was a messy eater.
Sunday, August 16, 2015
Mom is sleeping a lot again.
Sunday, September 13, 2015
Mom is sleeping a lot.
She seems to be more with it when she wakes up and in a better mood, but I have to keep her occupied.
Mom slept a lot. She seems pretty dopey.
Saturday we went for dinner at Paradise Sushi. She used to like this restaurant and sometimes went there for lunch by herself after a doctor's appointment.
She asked me why I didn't take her to a nicer restaurant.
I washed her hair Sunday morning and it made her happy.
Sunday, June 21st, 2015
Mom is sleeping a lot this morning.
I believe her risperadone has been reduced and her aricept has been increased.
We had dinner with NS on Friday and mom seemed alert.
When I ordered koroke teishoku, which is her favourite dish, she complained that she ate the same thing all the time. She ate it all except for some rice. She told me that I was a messy eater.
Sunday, August 16, 2015
Mom is sleeping a lot again.
Sunday, September 13, 2015
Mom is sleeping a lot.
She seems to be more with it when she wakes up and in a better mood, but I have to keep her occupied.
Charlene's birthday dinner
Saturday, April 25, 2015
When I arrived at mom's in the early afternoon she announced that she wasn't feeling well.
I just made her a snack and after she ate it, she was ready to come with me.
She wondered if it was far away.
We took a bus, a skytrain and another bus and then walked. It took us about 40 minutes.
Mom was fine. She wanted to go home shortly after dinner, but I said we had to stay for cake. We went home around 8:00.
That night, for the first night in a long time at my place, she said she would take a bath.
She talked about the birthday dinner and what a nice time we had.
It made me feel happy.
When I arrived at mom's in the early afternoon she announced that she wasn't feeling well.
I just made her a snack and after she ate it, she was ready to come with me.
She wondered if it was far away.
We took a bus, a skytrain and another bus and then walked. It took us about 40 minutes.
Mom was fine. She wanted to go home shortly after dinner, but I said we had to stay for cake. We went home around 8:00.
That night, for the first night in a long time at my place, she said she would take a bath.
She talked about the birthday dinner and what a nice time we had.
It made me feel happy.
Sunday, 26 April 2015
Face cream
Sunday, April 26, 2015
Every now and then, mom tells me she needs face cream.
She told me she had no soap.
So I gave her a bar of soap for the bath.
She asked me what this box was doing in her bag and I told her it was soap for her bath.
We went to London Drugs to buy face cream and face soap.
She decided she didn't need face cream
When we got to her apartment, I saw she had a bar of soap sitting in the soap dish. I don't think she touched it. She said she didn't use it when she took a bath. I don't think she uses anything.
She also already had face cream on the dresser in her bedroom.
Saturday, May 16, 2015
Mom says she needs something to put on her face.
Sunday, May 31, 2015
Mom says she needs something to put on her face.
Saturday, August 1st.
Took mom to get her hair done with George.
I noticed her toe nails were getting long. Then I saw a sign that said pedicures for $15 downstairs of our building. I took my mom to get a pedicure. It looked great!
Monday, August 31, 2015
Mom took some moisturizing cream from the cupboard. I told her that was to put on her feet and not her face.
Mom started talking about face cream again.
I noticed that Minako had put face cream on my mom today.
Every now and then, mom tells me she needs face cream.
She told me she had no soap.
So I gave her a bar of soap for the bath.
She asked me what this box was doing in her bag and I told her it was soap for her bath.
We went to London Drugs to buy face cream and face soap.
She decided she didn't need face cream
When we got to her apartment, I saw she had a bar of soap sitting in the soap dish. I don't think she touched it. She said she didn't use it when she took a bath. I don't think she uses anything.
She also already had face cream on the dresser in her bedroom.
Saturday, May 16, 2015
Mom says she needs something to put on her face.
Sunday, May 31, 2015
Mom says she needs something to put on her face.
Saturday, August 1st.
Took mom to get her hair done with George.
I noticed her toe nails were getting long. Then I saw a sign that said pedicures for $15 downstairs of our building. I took my mom to get a pedicure. It looked great!
Monday, August 31, 2015
Mom took some moisturizing cream from the cupboard. I told her that was to put on her feet and not her face.
Mom started talking about face cream again.
I noticed that Minako had put face cream on my mom today.
New Vista - Adult daycare
Tuesday, February 24, 2015
Mom had a great time at New Vista.
She said she threw a ball with lots of power.
She said she was strong.
She said they were put into groups and they sang. She said she sang well.
She was very happy.
Tuesday, March 3, 2015
Mom was not in a good mood.
She said she didn't enjoy New Vista today.
Mom didn't go to New Vista on Tuesday, April 14th because she couldn't find her key.
I wonder if it was because the Health Nurse phoned her and she thought it was New Vista.
She was dressed and ready to go. She went downstairs and then she was embarrassed because it was the wrong day. I think she was flustered and forgot to put the key back in the drawer.
She'd been complaining about a pain in her shoulder, but it was fine on the weekend. I had already made a doctor's appointment for Tuesday, April 21, but I ended up cancelling it because mom said her shoulder was fine. She was very excited about going to New Vista and was ready to go at 8:30 a.m. I told her to take a nap. I told her that she would get a call to wake her up in time to go to New Vista. I forgot to call her, but she made it there fine.
Tuesday, May 5, 2015
I called mom this morning at 8:30 a.m. as usual.
I asked her if she was excited about going to New Vista.
Mom was flabbergasted. She had completely forgotten about going to New Vista. She was worried that she wouldn't be ready in time. I asked her how her hair looked. She said it looked fine. I told her that she had another hour before they came to pick her up. She was fine.
When I saw her for dinner she thanked me for reminding her about New Vista.
She had a really nice time. I was surprised that she was so energetic. Recently she had seemed rather dopey and I worried she was taking a turn for the worse.
Tuesday, May 12, 2015
I called mom at 8:30 and she was disoriented. She said she wasn't ready to go to New Vista today. I told her she had another hour. I called her again at 9:30 just to check. She said no one from New Vista had called. Anyways she said she was going to wait downstairs.
When I arrived in the evening she was in a good mood. I read the breakfast lady's report and she said that mom had already eaten breakfast and was dressed and ready to go. I found a boiled egg. I guess mom made a boiled egg, but then didn't eat it. I chopped it up for our salad.
Mom had a nice time at New Vista.
Saturday, May 16, 2015
Mom was looking forward to going to New Vista.
Tuesday, June 30, 2015
Mom was anxious and distressed this a.m.
She said she was ill.
I told her to rest and that I would call her again.
She said that she had already told someone that she wasn't going to New Vista today.
Luckily I had hired a support worker from St. Elizabeth to help my mom today.
Mom couldn't remember where the key was so I got a call from Holly.
The key was found, but then New Vista didn't pick her up so I got another call.
I called New Vista and they told me that my mom said she wasn't going.
Ryan said he would come and pick her up and Mula stayed with mom until he came.
No more phone calls so will assume everything went okay.
Mom had a great time at New Vista.
She said she threw a ball with lots of power.
She said she was strong.
She said they were put into groups and they sang. She said she sang well.
She was very happy.
Tuesday, March 3, 2015
Mom was not in a good mood.
She said she didn't enjoy New Vista today.
Mom didn't go to New Vista on Tuesday, April 14th because she couldn't find her key.
I wonder if it was because the Health Nurse phoned her and she thought it was New Vista.
She was dressed and ready to go. She went downstairs and then she was embarrassed because it was the wrong day. I think she was flustered and forgot to put the key back in the drawer.
She'd been complaining about a pain in her shoulder, but it was fine on the weekend. I had already made a doctor's appointment for Tuesday, April 21, but I ended up cancelling it because mom said her shoulder was fine. She was very excited about going to New Vista and was ready to go at 8:30 a.m. I told her to take a nap. I told her that she would get a call to wake her up in time to go to New Vista. I forgot to call her, but she made it there fine.
Tuesday, May 5, 2015
I called mom this morning at 8:30 a.m. as usual.
I asked her if she was excited about going to New Vista.
Mom was flabbergasted. She had completely forgotten about going to New Vista. She was worried that she wouldn't be ready in time. I asked her how her hair looked. She said it looked fine. I told her that she had another hour before they came to pick her up. She was fine.
When I saw her for dinner she thanked me for reminding her about New Vista.
She had a really nice time. I was surprised that she was so energetic. Recently she had seemed rather dopey and I worried she was taking a turn for the worse.
Tuesday, May 12, 2015
I called mom at 8:30 and she was disoriented. She said she wasn't ready to go to New Vista today. I told her she had another hour. I called her again at 9:30 just to check. She said no one from New Vista had called. Anyways she said she was going to wait downstairs.
When I arrived in the evening she was in a good mood. I read the breakfast lady's report and she said that mom had already eaten breakfast and was dressed and ready to go. I found a boiled egg. I guess mom made a boiled egg, but then didn't eat it. I chopped it up for our salad.
Mom had a nice time at New Vista.
Saturday, May 16, 2015
Mom was looking forward to going to New Vista.
Tuesday, June 30, 2015
Mom was anxious and distressed this a.m.
She said she was ill.
I told her to rest and that I would call her again.
She said that she had already told someone that she wasn't going to New Vista today.
Luckily I had hired a support worker from St. Elizabeth to help my mom today.
Mom couldn't remember where the key was so I got a call from Holly.
The key was found, but then New Vista didn't pick her up so I got another call.
I called New Vista and they told me that my mom said she wasn't going.
Ryan said he would come and pick her up and Mula stayed with mom until he came.
No more phone calls so will assume everything went okay.
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