Saturday, 16 July 2016

fish tank

Saturday, July 16, 2016
Had dinner with the girls.  Jackie wasn't there.
Mom ate all her meat balls, most of her egg noodles and very little of her peas.  She ate most of her cheese cake with blueberry sauce.
While we were waiting for Donna in the bathroom we looked at mom's reader.  She can read it and it makes her happy to be able to do that.  We also look at her photobook.
After dinner we went to the dog park.  There were only two dogs there, but we met a couple of ladies walking their dogs.  One lady was very friendly.  She said her dog was a rescue dog.  It was found with fur so matted it had  bald patches and had to be shaved.  It was such a cute dog and quite mellow for having been through such a traumatic experience.
We looked at the sky, the dogs and ate a few cherries.
Mom only ate two cherries.
Then, she said she was cold so we walked back.
Donna really appreciates that I take them to the dog park.
The gate is still not locking properly. 

The girls wanted to walk more so we walked around the other part of the facility and then settled in the room with the fish tank.  Mom was more engaged than usual.  She was very interested in the fish tank and pointed at the decorations in the fish tank.
Donna kept asking me what day it was.  I think she is a little hard of hearing too.  Mom repeated "saturday" for Donna.  It was funny.
Donna remembers mom's name, but mom doesn't know Donna's name.
I explained to the two of them that I would be gone at music camp for a week.
They both wished me a happy holiday.  They both looked quite content.  It gives me peace of mind.

Mom isn't producing much laundry.  I wonder if the staff are washing her clothes or if her dirty clothes are being put back in her drawers.  I took her pajamas to be washed.

On the way out I saw Jackie.  It looks like she was coming back from a day of shopping.

Tuesday, 12 July 2016

Resident Care Conference

Tuesday, July 12th, 2016

I got to the meeting room early and was asked to wait outside.
There was a group of people, most of whom I did not recognize.
I recognized the LPN and the music therapist.
The first person was the RN and she said mom had edema.
In general, it sounded like mom was doing fine.
There was concern that Donna was too controlling.
They thought mom was perhaps not joining in activities that she could be doing because Donna did not want to participate.
Both Mom and Donna like music and enjoy singing.
Mom's medication seems to have been brought back down again.  They had increased it at the beginning, probably to keep her calm, but I had asked them to bring down the dosage.   I'm concerned about side effects.  I also asked about the Aricept as the psychiatrist had told me that it would only work for about 6 months to a year.  If it is not helping her, she probably shouldn't be taking it.  They said they would administer another memory test.  I think mom got like 3 right last time.
Mom has gained about 20 pounds.
I asked about the swelling of her calves.  Later the LPN came and checked mom's calves and confirmed that she did not have edema.
I asked about which activities mom wasn't participating in.  Mom doesn't like arts and crafts.  She says she isn't artistic.  I added that mom needs a lot of one-on-one attention and cuing.
She doesn't even know what to do with a toothbrush.
The biggest issue is the "do not resuscitate" order.  I asked that she be resuscitated.  I'll have to change that.

After the conference I had lunch with mom and the girls.  We started with potato and leek soup.  I thought it was pretty good.  We had hamburgers and french fries. Mom's took a long time to come and they were late with her ice cream too.  Ailene pointed out to staff that mom didn't have her burger yet.  She's looking out for mom now.

I asked everyone how old they were.  Donna knew what year she born and she had her birthday already which makes her 80.  Mom will be 82 and Ailene is 87.  Ailene said that her relatives were back east.  She said that her younger brother had passed away about a month ago.  The youngest brother is 67.  She said she was the oldest.

I told everyone that I would be on vacation next week at music camp.  Turns out that Jackie plays the ukelele too.  Mom did not seem to clue in to the fact that I would be away next week.  She didn't seem upset at all.

After lunch we went to the dog park.  Mom and Donna were enjoying being outside and watching the dogs.

We came back to participate in a gardening activity.  We watched some Youtube videos about trimming tomato plants.  Most of the residents watched politely, but one man, Edward, said he wanted to go back to his room with his wife.  They are quite the pair.  There are at least two couples that seem to have dementia.  The recreation leader asked if they would stay just a bit longer.  Then real tomato plants were brought in and mom and Donna got to share a plant to prune.  Donna has bad arthritis so she didn't want to use the pruning shears.  She asked mom to do the pruning, but mom said she didn't want to and gave the shears back to Donna.  I was going to prune the plant, but mom didn't like what I was doing and took the shears.  Mom started pruning the plant.  She mainly cut off the flower buds that were already dying.

I saw Gerry waiting in the wings.  She was obviously interested in what was going on.  I invited her to join us.  Mom and Gerry argued silently about which parts to cut.  Gerry wanted to cut off all the flowers around the tomato plants and mom just wanted to cut the flowers that were dying.  They compromised.  Mom cut one of the thriving flowers.

Soon it was over.  Gerry seemed disappointed.  I thought coffee was going to be served so I asked her to join us.  Mom and Donna left to go to the washroom.  I brought mom back because she said she didn't need to go to the washroom.  Meanwhile I went to wash the cherries and blueberries I had brought.  By the time I got back, mom went to the washroom.  Eventually we all sat together and ate the cherries and blue berries.  Coffee was late.  I asked Gerry how to sign "late."

Ailene came by. I thought she was going to join us for coffee, but she just came to show me her brother's obituary.  She was very proud of her brother.




















Monday, 11 July 2016

To the dog park with the gang

I arrived at 6:15 pm and met Mom and Donna just walking into the fish tank room.
I asked them what they were going to do, but they seemed confused so I suggested we go for a walk to the dog park.  While I was signing the girls out at the nurses' station, Michael showed up so I had to go back and sign him out too. 
We formed a line with me in the front and Michael in the rear.  I know he can't walk as well as Donna. Someone had left the gate unlocked again.  I will have to report that.
We didn't go as far as our usual bench because I wasn't sure if Michael could make it.
The four of us sat on the bench and watched the dogs in the dog park.  Michael said he grew up on a farm and had dogs.  Donna piped in and said her grandparents had a farm.  Michael said he was responsible for collecting eggs.  Donna said her grandma raised chickens as well. 
My mom admired the sky.  Michael mentioned something about working at the airport and watching the planes fly in.  He pointed out the planes flying over.
There were a lot of dogs in the park.  Michael was able to identify a German shepherd.
I talked about Poochie, the stray dog that came to our barbecue and never left.  He didn't like to get his feet wet so mom had to carry him to the telephone pole when it rained so that he could take a pee.
He was spoiled.  Mom smiled and agreed that she spoiled him and maybe it wasn't right.
I passed around some cherries.  Michael only took one and the girls only ate 3 a piece although they enjoyed them very much.
Mom said she was getting cold so we decided to head back.
Mom set up some chairs in the TV room so that the 3 of them could sit together.  Michael went to sit outside on the deck because he liked to watch the sun set.
We had to get staff to help us turn the television on.  A couple came to join us.  I've only met them recently.  The husband asked if he could join us.  We watched something about a tennis match in Wimbledon between a Canadian, Milos Raonic and the winner, Andy Murray.   Mom used to really enjoy watching sports on television.  She used to watch tennis, but today she wasn't interested really.
She was just happy to be with friends.


Friday, 1 July 2016

Canada Day

Friday, July 1, 2016
Had dinner with mom and the girls.
Mom didn't want to wear her bib.
Ailene doesn't wear a bib, but everyone else does.
I wore a bib to encourage mom.
Mom said that she never spilled so she didn't need to wear one.
Donna told her to wear a bib.  It was funny because it was like Donna could understand mom even though mom was speaking Japanese.
We had lasagne.
Mom didn't want me to cut up her lasagne, but I cut it up for her anyways.  Mom has been so contrary lately.  I suspect that they are reducing her medication.
She only ate half her lasagne and barely touched the sherbet.
I peeled an orange for her and gave her a section.  She said she wasn't going to eat it, but then forgot and ate a few pieces.  I gave her my milk, but she said she didn't want to drink it.  Then, she seemed to forget and drank the creamo and the milk.
After dinner we went back to room to use the toilet.
While we were waiting for Donna, mom and I went through mom's photobook.  She was smiling as she looked at the photos.
Donna got her sweater and sunglasses.  Mom helped Donna put her sweater on.
We went out to the dog park.  I brought some cherries to share.
When we got back, we joined some people in the FV room to watch a movie.
I took the girls' jackets back to the room, but when I got back to them, mom said she didn't want to watch the movie.  I suggested they sit in the fish tank room.
They sat at a table with Santa and Anna.  Santa seems to be the most with it in the bunch.
I'll have to remember to practice my Italian with Anna.

Wednesday, 29 June 2016

Gate is open!

Wednesday, June 29th, 2016
Had dinner with mom and the girls.  We had fish tonight.
Mom hardly ate anything.  She ate her strawberry tart.
She refused to let me cut her fish up for her.
She was having difficulty putting the fish on her spoon.
Then she tried to break up the fish with her spoon, but a sinew made it difficult to separate the piece.
She hardly ate her rice or beans.
Then she excused herself to go to the washroom.
She came back in about 5 minutes.
Ailene asked if she could eat mom's fish, so I gave it to her.
I offered mom some of my milk.  First she refused and then she drank it all.
Jackie came to join us at the end of the meal.  She poured a lot of sugar in her coffee.
She said she had been out all day and needed a rest.  She said she was going to go on a cruise to Hawaii with her daughter and grandchildren.
We went back to the room so Donna could use the washroom.  I checked the gate to the park while mom and Donna walked back to the room.  It was fixed.  I think they must have greased it with oil.
While Donna was in the washroom, I went over mom's photobook with her.
She couldn't say my name or tell me who I was, but she recognized me in most of the photos.
She recognized herself.  She smiled when she saw my brother's photo, but she couldn't say his name either.  She enjoyed looking at the photobook.
 I gave mom a jacket to put on, but while I was signing the girls out in the book, mom had taken her jacket off and left it in her room.  I had to go back and get her jacket.  Once we were outside, she was ready for her jacket.  We walked over to a bench outside the dog park.  We ate blueberries and sang songs.  Mom and Donna sang along.  We sang Oh my darling, Clementine, You are my Sunshine, She'll be coming round the Mountain, If you're happy and you know it.  I forgot words, but Donna remembered some.
Mom said she was cold so we decided to go back.  We sang along the way.  We sat in the FV room and watched a bit of Vacation.  Michael joined us.  He thinks I work at St. Michael's. 
When I was leaving I bumped into my brother.  He said he was having trouble getting in.  I had walked by the door several times, but hadn't noticed.  Santa had been trying to let me know, but I didn't understand why she was pointing to the door.  I think my brother couldn't get in because one of the residents with an ankle bracelet was probably near the door.

Monday, 27 June 2016

Gate still closed

Sunday, June 26, 2016

Went to visit mom after supper.  It was only 5:45 but the cafeteria was deserted.  Mom was sitting with Donna and Michael in the FV room watching the news. 

I went to mom's room to sort out her laundry and drop off clean clothes. 
The stained clothes are easy to identify, but the worn clothes not so much.  My sniffer is not so good.
Recently, someone is putting clothes in the dirty clothes bag, I have left in mom's closet.
Mom is hoarding napkins and towels. 
Her brush disappeared some time ago, but she has her red comb and a new slightly damaged pink one.

I joined the gang in the FV room.  Michael said he didn't want to walk today.  Donna asked my mom, but she didn't know.  They probably wanted to rest after a big meal.  They had stuffed pork roast, mashed potatoes and gravy.  Dessert was pumpkin pie.  Donna remembered the pumpkin pie.  Mom agreed that the meal was very good.

Donna and mom went back to the room to use the toilet before they went out for the walk.  
While Donna was in the bathroom, I went through mom's photo album.  I asked mom if she knew who I was.  When I showed her a photo in the album she knew who I was and who she was.  When I showed her my baby photo, she didn't seem to recognize me, but she recognized Chris.  

Donna put on her sunglasses and her sun visor.  I signed the girls out at the nurses' station. 

We got outside to the beautiful sunshine, but the gate was still locked!  I'll have to remember to report that to administration.  I already asked a nurse to report it last week. We sat outside in the courtyard outside mom and Donna's room and blew bubbles.  They enjoy that.  Sometimes they only get one bubble and sometimes they get lots of bubbles.  The roses are fading. 

After the walk the ladies sat briefly with Michael.  We were talking about the resident garden just outside on the veranda.   Mom said she didn't want to go and see the garden.  Michael went outside to sit on the veranda.  Mom and Donna went back to their room where I said good-bye, but then they followed me back out.  I sat them at a table and said good-bye again.

Saturday, 25 June 2016

Friday Night at the Races

Friday, June 25th, 2016

Meatloaf with gravy, mashed potatoes and carrots.  Dessert was cake.
When I arrived shortly after 5:00 p.m., the meal had already been served.  I got myself a tea while I waited for my dinner.  Mom gets anxious it my meal is not there because she feels she has to share with me.

They celebrated Jackie's birthday this afternoon at tea.  She was wearing her blond wig and going by the name Betty.  She looked great. She was wearing lots of silver bling.  She said the cake was strawberry shortcake with whipping cream and because there weren't so many residents, there was a lot of cake to eat.  They celebrate all the birthdays for the month on one day each month.  There is a singer/guitarist who entertains the residents.

Mom accepted a banana from the fruit lady today.  Usually she doesn't want anything.  She now has two bananas and an orange in her collection on her night table.  When her collection gets too big, I turn it in to the nurses' station.

Donna ate all her dinner and her dessert before mom was finished.  I told Donna to go ahead to the room and use the washroom first and me and mom would come to the room later.  Mom lingered over her dinner.  She only ate half of everything including her cake, but she drank all her milk and juice.

I notice there are what look to be food stains on mom's pants.  She wears a bib at meals, but sometimes she spills on her tops as well.  It seems to happen more often now.  I noticed a pulled piece of thread or fabric on her pants.  I told mom I would cut it off, but she was adamant that I needed to fix it a different way.  She knew that she wanted to pull the thread inside, but she couldn't figure out how to do it.  If I had a needle, she may have been able to do it.

I told Donna we were going to the races.  She asked if we had to pay and I told her it was free.  Donna's horse won a race so she got a chocolate which she shared with mom later.  The girls had a fine time at the races.

After the races, the girls went to sit with Santa and Anna by the fish tank.  Michael came and joined the girls.