Saturday 30 July 2016

Visit with Ethel

Saturday, July 30, 2016
Ethel came for a visit today.
There was a concert in the Fraser Room.
A man with a guitar was singing.  I could tell that Donna was really into it.
We didn't want to bother the girls so I took Ethel to mom's room and then we went to the dog park.
I had trouble with the gate again so reported it to the nurse's station.
After the concert the girls went to use the toilet.
While Donna was in the toilet, I combed mom's hair and clipped her bangs a bit.
I had Ethel do the sniff test on mom's clothes.
Her nose is better than mine.
Then we went to get a coffee, but coffee time was already finished so I went to get juice, but that was gone too.  I didn't see any yesterday either.
I asked for water and one of the workers went to fill the juice container and began to dispense juice to the latecomers.  We were all thirsty because it was a hot day.  The performer came and sat with us. He was thirsty too.  We all chatted a bit.  Mom was smiling.
When it was time to go, she walked us to the door.  I had to get her to stand back from the door just in case she triggered the lock.  She seemed happy.



Friday 29 July 2016

At the Races

Friday, July 29, 2016
Bus was late, missed connection had to walk from Metrotown.  I was about 10 minutes late, but it was okay.  Dinner was late today.  We had lasagne, garlic bread, Caesar salad and ice cream. 
Jackie really likes the garlic bread.  Ailene asked for extra lasagne.
Ailene said that I should bring food for mom to eat.  She was concerned because mom wasn't eating all her food.  Jackie thought so too.  I explained that mom had gained 10 kilos.  Everyone noticed mom was only eating half of her meal but all of her dessert.
Mom ate most of her meal today.
She has trouble with her utensils.  I gave her a fork for the lasagne and the spoon for her ice cream but she fought me on it.  She refused to drink the water I poured for her.  I worry she doesn't drink enough water. 
After dinner she went back quickly to the room to use the toilet while I put my chair back.  I caught up with Donna on the way to the room.  While we were waiting for Donna, I looked through mom's closet and drawer looking for dirty clothes.  They are supposed to be put in a pink bag in the closet, but there was only one pair of underpants. 
Gerry's daughter said that she had brought in two pairs of brand new pants to be labeled and she hadn't seen them for two weeks.  She said she often found strange clothes in her mom's drawers.  I had the same stories.  Once I found a huge bra that was obviously not mom's.
We went to the horse races.  I assured Donna that we didn't need to bring anything but ourselves.
Donna picked horse number 4 and mom copied her, even though, I told her to pick horse #6.  Santa's horse #2 won 3 times!  Neither #4 or #6 came in. 
After the races I asked Donna and mom unbeknownst to each other about going to the dog park, but they both turned me down.  Donna said she was too tired today and mom ditto for mom.  So mom and I placed chairs around Santa's table.  George D. was there too.  I wonder if he is deaf.  Was asked me what we were waiting for and I told her hot cocoa.  Donna wears a watch and seems to have an idea about time.  I told her about 10 minutes. 
I gave mom a hug, but she was hesitant.  I guess she was embarrassed.  Everyone waved good-bye except George D.

Wednesday 27 July 2016

Santa is back!

Tuesday, July 26th, 2016
Mom was happy to see me.  We had beef stroganoff for dinner with mango pudding for dessert.  Now that I know mom has gained 10 kilos, I don't care that she tries to reduce her consumption.  I've also gained weight and starting from today will no longer eat everything on my plate.
When we were leaving the table, mom was concerned that the dishes had not been cleared.  She wanted me to stay behind and clear the dishes.  Although I tried to reassure her that it was fine to leave the dishes on the table, she seemed anxious.
Dinner was served on time today so we had plenty of time before card bingo.  We went for a little walk around the back of the building. 
Santa was back.  I hadn't seen her for a very long time.  She's so tiny and doesn't really speak English although she seems to understand very well.  She said "hospital" and held up 4 fingers.  I think she must have something wrong with her lungs.  Her son wheeled her up across the table from my mom because that's where she wanted to be.  Santa seems only to be able to move one hand and has trouble turning the cards over as do many of the people at card bingo.  Mom has very good finger dexterity and is able to help the others around her.  Mom was actively participating and was even able to notice when others had a card that was called and alert them.  She still has trouble, but she seems to have improved for today.  She turned around often to make sure that I was watching her cards carefully.
Mom and Donna both got "bingo" and won bags of potato chips.
After card bingo I wheeled Santa to her usual table by the fish tank and took mom and Donna to the dog park.  We had a nice time. 
Mom's orchid has lost all its flowers.
Mom's bangs are getting long.  I will try and trim them next time.
I'll have to remember to bring a seam ripper and let mom's non-stretchy pants out a bit.
I should probably discontinue mom's telephone line.
Later when I got home, I realized that I had forgotten to put Santa's wheel chair brakes on.  Yikes!

Sunday 24 July 2016

Clapping hands

Sunday, July 24th, 2016
Visited mom for the first time in a week.  I was away on vacation.  Mom recognized me.  What a relief!  Chris said he visited mom and Donna last Wednesday.  He complained that Donna always asked the same questions. 
When I arrived, mom, Donna and Michael were watching the news.  So cute!
Mom and Donna were happy to go to the dog park, but Michael said that he already been there many times before and didn't need to go.
Mom is always anxious about the gate.  She always thinks that I won't be able to open it.
We walked to the farthest bench as usual and looked at the dogs and the sky.
Both mom and Donna smile as they watch the dogs.
After about 15 minutes mom says she is cold and we head back.
We spend some time looking at the vegetables growing on the deck and then join Michael in front of the television.  I go to the washroom, then head off to mom's room to get a comb for her hair which is matted at the back.  As I walk across the cafeteria I hear clapping.  Mom is trying to get my attention.  She doesn't know my name. She is wondering why I am not joining her.  I explain that I had to go to the washroom.  All is forgiven.  I go and get the comb and comb her tangles out. 
I make sure her orchid has water and make sure she has toothpaste.
I pick up her laundry and bring her clean pj's and underwear.
When I go to give mom a hug when I am leaving, she tells me that she thought I was bringing her something.  I tell her that they will be serving hot chocolate in 10 minutes.  Donna suggests they go to the fish tank room and wait there.
I notice that mom's pants look snug.

Saturday 16 July 2016

fish tank

Saturday, July 16, 2016
Had dinner with the girls.  Jackie wasn't there.
Mom ate all her meat balls, most of her egg noodles and very little of her peas.  She ate most of her cheese cake with blueberry sauce.
While we were waiting for Donna in the bathroom we looked at mom's reader.  She can read it and it makes her happy to be able to do that.  We also look at her photobook.
After dinner we went to the dog park.  There were only two dogs there, but we met a couple of ladies walking their dogs.  One lady was very friendly.  She said her dog was a rescue dog.  It was found with fur so matted it had  bald patches and had to be shaved.  It was such a cute dog and quite mellow for having been through such a traumatic experience.
We looked at the sky, the dogs and ate a few cherries.
Mom only ate two cherries.
Then, she said she was cold so we walked back.
Donna really appreciates that I take them to the dog park.
The gate is still not locking properly. 

The girls wanted to walk more so we walked around the other part of the facility and then settled in the room with the fish tank.  Mom was more engaged than usual.  She was very interested in the fish tank and pointed at the decorations in the fish tank.
Donna kept asking me what day it was.  I think she is a little hard of hearing too.  Mom repeated "saturday" for Donna.  It was funny.
Donna remembers mom's name, but mom doesn't know Donna's name.
I explained to the two of them that I would be gone at music camp for a week.
They both wished me a happy holiday.  They both looked quite content.  It gives me peace of mind.

Mom isn't producing much laundry.  I wonder if the staff are washing her clothes or if her dirty clothes are being put back in her drawers.  I took her pajamas to be washed.

On the way out I saw Jackie.  It looks like she was coming back from a day of shopping.

Tuesday 12 July 2016

Resident Care Conference

Tuesday, July 12th, 2016

I got to the meeting room early and was asked to wait outside.
There was a group of people, most of whom I did not recognize.
I recognized the LPN and the music therapist.
The first person was the RN and she said mom had edema.
In general, it sounded like mom was doing fine.
There was concern that Donna was too controlling.
They thought mom was perhaps not joining in activities that she could be doing because Donna did not want to participate.
Both Mom and Donna like music and enjoy singing.
Mom's medication seems to have been brought back down again.  They had increased it at the beginning, probably to keep her calm, but I had asked them to bring down the dosage.   I'm concerned about side effects.  I also asked about the Aricept as the psychiatrist had told me that it would only work for about 6 months to a year.  If it is not helping her, she probably shouldn't be taking it.  They said they would administer another memory test.  I think mom got like 3 right last time.
Mom has gained about 20 pounds.
I asked about the swelling of her calves.  Later the LPN came and checked mom's calves and confirmed that she did not have edema.
I asked about which activities mom wasn't participating in.  Mom doesn't like arts and crafts.  She says she isn't artistic.  I added that mom needs a lot of one-on-one attention and cuing.
She doesn't even know what to do with a toothbrush.
The biggest issue is the "do not resuscitate" order.  I asked that she be resuscitated.  I'll have to change that.

After the conference I had lunch with mom and the girls.  We started with potato and leek soup.  I thought it was pretty good.  We had hamburgers and french fries. Mom's took a long time to come and they were late with her ice cream too.  Ailene pointed out to staff that mom didn't have her burger yet.  She's looking out for mom now.

I asked everyone how old they were.  Donna knew what year she born and she had her birthday already which makes her 80.  Mom will be 82 and Ailene is 87.  Ailene said that her relatives were back east.  She said that her younger brother had passed away about a month ago.  The youngest brother is 67.  She said she was the oldest.

I told everyone that I would be on vacation next week at music camp.  Turns out that Jackie plays the ukelele too.  Mom did not seem to clue in to the fact that I would be away next week.  She didn't seem upset at all.

After lunch we went to the dog park.  Mom and Donna were enjoying being outside and watching the dogs.

We came back to participate in a gardening activity.  We watched some Youtube videos about trimming tomato plants.  Most of the residents watched politely, but one man, Edward, said he wanted to go back to his room with his wife.  They are quite the pair.  There are at least two couples that seem to have dementia.  The recreation leader asked if they would stay just a bit longer.  Then real tomato plants were brought in and mom and Donna got to share a plant to prune.  Donna has bad arthritis so she didn't want to use the pruning shears.  She asked mom to do the pruning, but mom said she didn't want to and gave the shears back to Donna.  I was going to prune the plant, but mom didn't like what I was doing and took the shears.  Mom started pruning the plant.  She mainly cut off the flower buds that were already dying.

I saw Gerry waiting in the wings.  She was obviously interested in what was going on.  I invited her to join us.  Mom and Gerry argued silently about which parts to cut.  Gerry wanted to cut off all the flowers around the tomato plants and mom just wanted to cut the flowers that were dying.  They compromised.  Mom cut one of the thriving flowers.

Soon it was over.  Gerry seemed disappointed.  I thought coffee was going to be served so I asked her to join us.  Mom and Donna left to go to the washroom.  I brought mom back because she said she didn't need to go to the washroom.  Meanwhile I went to wash the cherries and blueberries I had brought.  By the time I got back, mom went to the washroom.  Eventually we all sat together and ate the cherries and blue berries.  Coffee was late.  I asked Gerry how to sign "late."

Ailene came by. I thought she was going to join us for coffee, but she just came to show me her brother's obituary.  She was very proud of her brother.




















Monday 11 July 2016

To the dog park with the gang

I arrived at 6:15 pm and met Mom and Donna just walking into the fish tank room.
I asked them what they were going to do, but they seemed confused so I suggested we go for a walk to the dog park.  While I was signing the girls out at the nurses' station, Michael showed up so I had to go back and sign him out too. 
We formed a line with me in the front and Michael in the rear.  I know he can't walk as well as Donna. Someone had left the gate unlocked again.  I will have to report that.
We didn't go as far as our usual bench because I wasn't sure if Michael could make it.
The four of us sat on the bench and watched the dogs in the dog park.  Michael said he grew up on a farm and had dogs.  Donna piped in and said her grandparents had a farm.  Michael said he was responsible for collecting eggs.  Donna said her grandma raised chickens as well. 
My mom admired the sky.  Michael mentioned something about working at the airport and watching the planes fly in.  He pointed out the planes flying over.
There were a lot of dogs in the park.  Michael was able to identify a German shepherd.
I talked about Poochie, the stray dog that came to our barbecue and never left.  He didn't like to get his feet wet so mom had to carry him to the telephone pole when it rained so that he could take a pee.
He was spoiled.  Mom smiled and agreed that she spoiled him and maybe it wasn't right.
I passed around some cherries.  Michael only took one and the girls only ate 3 a piece although they enjoyed them very much.
Mom said she was getting cold so we decided to head back.
Mom set up some chairs in the TV room so that the 3 of them could sit together.  Michael went to sit outside on the deck because he liked to watch the sun set.
We had to get staff to help us turn the television on.  A couple came to join us.  I've only met them recently.  The husband asked if he could join us.  We watched something about a tennis match in Wimbledon between a Canadian, Milos Raonic and the winner, Andy Murray.   Mom used to really enjoy watching sports on television.  She used to watch tennis, but today she wasn't interested really.
She was just happy to be with friends.


Friday 1 July 2016

Canada Day

Friday, July 1, 2016
Had dinner with mom and the girls.
Mom didn't want to wear her bib.
Ailene doesn't wear a bib, but everyone else does.
I wore a bib to encourage mom.
Mom said that she never spilled so she didn't need to wear one.
Donna told her to wear a bib.  It was funny because it was like Donna could understand mom even though mom was speaking Japanese.
We had lasagne.
Mom didn't want me to cut up her lasagne, but I cut it up for her anyways.  Mom has been so contrary lately.  I suspect that they are reducing her medication.
She only ate half her lasagne and barely touched the sherbet.
I peeled an orange for her and gave her a section.  She said she wasn't going to eat it, but then forgot and ate a few pieces.  I gave her my milk, but she said she didn't want to drink it.  Then, she seemed to forget and drank the creamo and the milk.
After dinner we went back to room to use the toilet.
While we were waiting for Donna, mom and I went through mom's photobook.  She was smiling as she looked at the photos.
Donna got her sweater and sunglasses.  Mom helped Donna put her sweater on.
We went out to the dog park.  I brought some cherries to share.
When we got back, we joined some people in the FV room to watch a movie.
I took the girls' jackets back to the room, but when I got back to them, mom said she didn't want to watch the movie.  I suggested they sit in the fish tank room.
They sat at a table with Santa and Anna.  Santa seems to be the most with it in the bunch.
I'll have to remember to practice my Italian with Anna.