Saturday 28 October 2017

Mom's Birthday

Saturday, October 28th, 2017
Donna was sitting at the dinner table.  Mom was sitting with Joan in the fish tank room.
I took mom back to her room and changed her.  I changed her diaper as well.  Her diaper wasn't too filled, but there was some poop in it.
We combed her hair.
Then, I sat her with Donna.
Charlene and Aunti Sumi showed up.  We took a photograph with Donna and then we went to the restaurant.
Mom had trouble getting into the car. 
She didn't seem very agitated and seemed excited about going out for dinner.
Mom was fine at the restaurant.  She ate lots of tempura, some fish and rice and lots of Japanese tea.  She ate the cucumber pickles too.  She refused to drink the miso soup with a spoon.  I was worried she was going to spill like last time, but she was fine.
When we got back, I took her straight to the washroom. 
Then I rounded up the usual group and we played cards.  It was quite deserted today.
After cards, Michael went to watch his movie.  I gathered up some other stray people and we drank hot cocoa and ate cookies.  The Chinese lady with the missing teeth ate two egg sandwiches.  The old man with the hearing aids is not allowed to have liquids, but he didn't want to eat his apple sauce either.  He said he had just come back from dinner with his daughter and wasn't hungry.
After the snack I got mom to wheel Donna back to the room and I got mom ready for bed. 
Donna had lots of trouble getting up from her wheelchair to her walker.
I said good-bye to mom and left.

Wednesday 25 October 2017

Anna is gone

Wednesday, October 25, 2017
Anna is gone.
I heard last Sunday that she was leaving on Tuesday.
I wonder if she went to a different facility.
She thought she was going home.  Last month she said she was going to Italy with her son.
Mom was eating dinner when I arrived.  She had drank all her beverages including mine when I arrived.  No wonder she wasn't hungry. Donna was in a wheelchair again.
It was chicken stir fry.  I got a lot of food and put it in the fridge to take for lunch tomorrow, but I forgot it:(
After dinner I took mom to the washroom.  Her diaper was a little wet and there was some poop.  We took a long time to clean her bum and nether regions.
Chris arrived so I asked him to get his dinner from the kitchen.  After I had watered the plants, put mom's pee-soaked pajama bottoms in the laundry hamper, combed her hair, etc. I went to the dining room.  One of the aides told me that Chris should eat in the kitchen area. 
While mom sat with Chris, I got the table to get ready to play cards.
There was still some time so we took mom for a walk around the facility.
Then we rounded up the usual suspects and played cards.
Joe didn't want to play.  He's hanging around with William now.
After cards we sat around for a very long time before hot cocoa arrived.  Mom didn't touch her hot cocoa.  I had hot cocoa and an egg sandwich.
I got mom to wheel Donna back to the room.  I put her against the window.  This is her usual perch now I think.
I took mom back to the room and brushed her teeth, washed her face and took her for a pee.  I put some Vaseline on her face.  It was very dry.  I think she washes her face with the hand soap.
I think some of the care aides are just not very good.
Mom followed me to the nurses' station and we sang for a bit.
When I went to leave she was clearly upset.  I took her back to the room and said good-bye again.  This time she seemed fine.  I think it was just because she didn't know how to get back to her room.
Alan drove me home.  We got in a bit of a traffic jam.  Probably leftover from earlier  closure on the Queensborough bridge.  When he stopped by the bus stop, he started talking about abuse that his mother had suffered at the hands of an eastern European aide.  Yikes!  He wanted to keep talking, but I just wanted to go home.



Sunday 22 October 2017

Long wait for Donna for diaper change

Sunday, October 22, 2017
I brought the pants that Lucy had given me for mom and a hand-me-down pink shirt for mom for labeling.
I arrived at 5:20.  Mom was still at the dinner table.  She had only eaten her salad and had not touched her Greek chicken.  She said she had to go to the washroom.  Yikes!  Luckily we made it, but not before I had wiped the toilet seat.  She had a bit of a pee accident, but all the poop landed in the toilet.  I changed mom's wet diaper.
I cut up mom's chicken and she ate a bit.  She did enjoy her two fresh orange quarters.  I helped mom eat her chicken.  It was delicious.  Mom had a bit of tea with milk and seemed to enjoy it.
Donna didn't want to go back to the room, but I could tell that her diaper was full of poop.  I had her sit in her walker and pushed her back to the room.  The aide said I should pull the rope in the washroom.  Another aide came and sat Donna in a chair.  Then she told Donna that she was going on a break and left her there.
I went to play cards with the usual group, but Donna never showed up.  Nivanka, the care aide who is doing Anna duty was there.  She invited Betty to join.  Betty just could not play.  During the game, mom said she had to go to the washroom.  We didn't quite make it so I had to change mom's diaper again.  Donna was still sitting in the chair and the aide was sitting with her.  Donna still haadn't had her diaper changed.  I think the aide was just waiting until it was time for Donna to go to bed. I had asked Nivanka to take overwith the cards, but apparently Anna did not like this.
When I got back, Anna had left to bother Irma.  We continued to play and Anna came back.
After the game, we had hot cocoa.  Mom did not touch her cocoa or her muffin so I ate her muffin and a cheese sandwich.  It was good.
Then I took mom to brush her teeth and wash her face.  Donna was already in bed. Mom forgot how to brush her teeth.  I think there may have been blood.  She complained when I washed her face with a towel.
We sat in the hall to wait for Alan.  We sang a Yuyakekoyake.  Primo tried to talk to us, but Anna kept insulting him.  Mom had trouble swallowing her medication.  She tried to bite it.  Eventually she swallowed it.
We left later than usual because Alan and Shanta were watching Oprah on 60 minutes.
Alan said that Anna was being taken to a different facility.

Saturday 21 October 2017

impromptu balloon toss game

Saturday, October 21, 2017
I arrived at approx. 5:40p.m.  Mom and Donna were still in the dining hall.  I took mom to her room.  We had to find an available washroom.  I think we used Anka's.  I had to clean the toilet seat first.  Mom took a poop.  I changed mom's diaper and wiped her bum.  Then we combed her hair.
Mom was wearing another of her new tops.  She looked good.  I put her black top in the clothes hamper.  I hope it comes back okay.
We played cards with the usual group.  One of the aides joined us.  She is watching Anna.  Mandy usually hides in the kitchen and does her texting.  This one actually participated.  After cards we sat around and had hot cocoa.  George joined us.  I was going to take mom to her room to wash up, but this care aide initiated a balloon toss game.  It was fun.  Unfortunately, I didn't have time to wash mom up.  I gave everyone a big hug, Michael and George too.

Wednesday 18 October 2017

Mom is wearing her new top

Wednesday, October 18, 2017
I arrived a little late because my bus did not show up.  Luckily I was able to catch an alternate bus.
Dinner was served a little late so that was good for me.  Not so good for mom.  She had drank all her beverages.  I had ordered a dinner for Chris as well, but mom was investigating and opened one of the juices.  Luckily, the dinners were moved to another table where people were less demented.
Apparently the fruit lady had come by earlier.  The bananas were green so Donna wanted to take them and let them ripen, but mom insisted on peeling hers.  A tug of war ensued.  In the end, Donna had the two bananas.  Jacquie asked if mom had always been this feisty to which I replied in the affirmative.
We had Maryland chicken, roasted potatoes, beans and strawberry shortcake.  Delicious.  There was too much food so I saved it for tomorrow's lunch.
Mom was wearing one of her new tops.  It was black with shiny dots.  It looked great on her.  She was happy.
Chris arrived about 6:45.  I took mom to the bathroom and she took a poop.  I had to change her diaper, clean her up etc. 
We played cards.  Mom was having difficulty and needed lots of help.  She kept asking if the card was good or bad.  At least she was engaged.
After cards we sat around for a bit.  Anna thinks that mom is my daughter.
We had hot cocoa and cookies.
I helped mom brush her teeth and wash her face and took her for one last pee.  She wanted to come with me, but in the end she sat with Anna.


Monday 16 October 2017

New tops are in the closet

Sunday, October 16, 2017
Mom was halfway through her salmon dinner when I arrived.  It looked like she ate about half of everything.  She was in a good mood. 
I went to her room to water the plants, check laundry, etc.  I removed a few golf shirts.  Her new shirts were labeled and in the closet.  I cleaned the washroom too. 
Mom and Donna were sitting at the nurses' station.  I collected mom and brought her back to the room.  I put mom on the toilet, checked her diaper, etc.  No poop.  We went through her photo book.  She really enjoyed it.  Some photos she had me and her mixed up. 
We played cards with the usual group.  Joe was watching television.  I found it a bit loud.
After cards we sat around and waited for hot cocoa.  Mandy wheeled Anka over to our table. One of the nurses joined us.  She is Serbian/Croatian.  She and Anka sang some songs in Croatian.  They were songs about young women and finding love.  One was about a young woman who goes to the river to wash clothes.  Her mother is checking up on her.  She meets a man by the river and he makes the water dirty so she can't wash the clothes and has to spend more time with him. 
Mom didn't touch her hot chocolate or her egg sandwich so I ended up eating both quarters.
I brushed mom's teeth and washed her face.  She took a poop. 
We sat by the nurses' station.  Anna was chatting.  Anka does not like Anna.
Mandy said that she was getting married in February to a younger man.

Friday 13 October 2017

Where are mom's tops?

Friday, October 13, 2017
I arrived after dinner.  It was Salisbury steak.  Mom and Donna were all ready to play horse bingo.  I went to mom's room and tidied up.  She had some laundry, I watered her plants, cleaned the bathroom, etc. 
I went to the nurses' station to inquire about mom's tops.  I haven't seen them yet.  I sent them to be labeled on Saturday.  I also inquired about mom's scissors, wallet, etc.  It took several visits to the station to find someone who could help me.
Mom won a piece of chocolate so I split it with her and Donna.
Shanta gave me her chocolate.
I got Anka to join in with the horse races.  She seemed to enjoy it.  Anna was also enjoying the activity.
I took Shanta back to Alan.
I took mom to the washroom.  She had a poop!  A normal one.
Later we sat around and had hot cocoa. I ate two egg sandwich quarters.
I had to move Primo because he was bothering people at our table.
Irma and Anna were hitting each other and laughing.  Anna touch Irma's breast and Anka was offended.
I moved him between Harold and George and they seemed fine.
The British guy and another guy came to join the ladies.
After hot cocoa, I took mom to brush her teeth, etc.
She did a little more poop.
Then we sat at the nurses' station.
Donna had to have her diaper changed.
Mom, Anna and Anka sat in the hall by the nurses' station. 

Wednesday 11 October 2017

No bath for Anna

Wednesday, October 11, 2017
They set up a separate table for me, mom and Chris, but of course Chris was coming late anyways so I moved everything over to mom's usual table.
Meatloaf, zucchini, baked potato and custard for dessert.  Yum!  Mom ate everything.  She drank all her beverages. 
When I took her to the bathroom, she wasn't wearing any diapers.  There was a poopy diaper by the sink, poop smeared into the floor in front of the toilet, etc.  I wiped up as best I could with antiseptic wash towels.  I wiped mom's bum.  I put a new diaper on her and changed her pants too.
We played cards with the usual group.  Chris ate his dinner first and then joined us.  He really enjoyed his dinner.  He wants have dinner next week too. Joe joined us after the first game.  We had fun as usual.  I had to go to the washroom so Chris was caller for a bit.
We had hot cocoa.  Mom and I shared a 1/4 of an egg sandwich. Anna was refusing to take her bath. 
I got mom ready for bed.  I noticed her diaper was soiled a bit.  I guess I didn't get all the poop.
The Croatian lady sang us a song by the nurses' station.
When I got home there was a message that some of mom's things had been confiscated and that I could pick them up at the nurses' station.  That was helpful, not.  Also, mom's 3 new tops have not been labeled yet.  Mom was wearing nice pants again.  I wonder where she got them from?



Monday 9 October 2017

3 new tops

Monday, October 9, 2017
I saw the janitorial staff guy, Kennedy outside.  He asked me why I didn't send him an e-mail.
Spaghetti with meat sauce, salad, garlic toast and vanilla pudding.  Mom would have none of it.  She did drink all her beverages.  I should have suspected earlier, but she had soiled her pants.  She had diarrhea and was farting.  Poor mom.
And she tried to remove her diaper herself and stick her hand up her bum.  Yikes.  I kept yelling not to touch anything.  She doesn't understand.  She just knows I'm excited about something.
I bought mom 3 new tops and Barbara liked them all.  I'll have to find mom's other winter tops.
It's getting chillier now.
I combed mom's hair.
I noticed hair on her bed and pillow.  It was fine short dark hair.  I wonder if someone else had been sleeping in mom's bed.
We played cards with the regular gang.
Joe was sitting with Bill and they were watching television.  It was a little loud, so I turned it down a bit and moved Joe and Bill up closer to the television. 
Shanta fell asleep during the last couple of hands.
She won the last hand.
We had hot cocoa.  There were no egg sandwiches.  Mom ate a bit of her cheese sandwich and some cocoa.
I brushed mom's teeth.  The other day when I gave her the tooth brush, she immediately washed the toothpaste off so I had to start again.  I washed mom's face.
Kennedy kept asking me to call him.  I told him maybe next year.
Alan told me that mom had been looking for me on Sunday.

Saturday 7 October 2017

Aki

Saturday, October 7, 2017
Mom had already eaten her beef stew when I arrived at 5:10 p.m.  I cut up her giant dumpling for her.
Then I went to her room, watered her plants, sorted her laundry, took out some summer clothes from the closet to bring home, etc.  I got myself a tea and sat in Jacquie's spot because she had already left the table.  I could see that mom had to go to the washroom, so I immediately took her there.
She just did a pee and her diaper looked relatively clean.  I noticed her hair looked pretty clean too.
I guess they must have given everyone an extra wash for Thanksgiving.
I put the headset on mom and took her for a little walk.  We saw a squirrel run up a tree, a crow and some dogs in the park from the facility grounds.
Anna was dressed up and ready to go out for dinner with her family.  She wanted to tell me her daughter was picking her up, but she couldn't remember her name and neither could I.
We played card bingo.  I recruited Joe to take Anna's place. Some of the other guys in wheelchairs circled out table.  One guy was chatting with mom, but she said he was too loud. George tried to take Michael's television guide so I had to give George a different section of the paper.  I asked the British guy if he wanted to join us, but he said he was content to watch.
We had hot cocoa and egg sandwiches.  Michael and the Croatian lady joined us. The sugar cookie was really good too.  Mom said she didn't want to eat anything so I ate her sandwich and 3/4 of her cookie.  Eventually she drank her hot cocoa and her ate 1/4 of her cookie.  I should probably have waited longer before I devoured her food.
Aki walked by and Michael was all excited.  She's one of the staff.  All the men love her.
The staff were happy that I was there to keep the residents rounded up and occupied.  One staff mentioned that mom was walking around again.
Alan mentioned that Aki was quitting her job to move to the states where the hours and pay was better.


Wednesday 4 October 2017

Leftovers

Wednesday, October 4, 2017
Got to St. Michael's in good time. 
Shepherd's pie, cauliflower and broccoli, cheese cake with blue berry sauce.
Mom ate most of her food.  She drank all the beverages.
Jacquie ordered an extra breaded fried fish, but she couldn't eat it.  I saved it for Chris and added my cheese cake with blue berry sauce.  I shared half of mom's.  I didn't even know for sure if Chris was coming.
After dinner, I took mom to the washroom.  I changed her diaper.  No poop.  I put the head set on and a jacket and we went for a short walk outside.
We played cards.  No Joe today.  Mom was having trouble understanding what to do.  I told Chris to show mom what to do by flipping the cards over.  She's got very good manual dexterity compared to Donna who has really bad arthritis. 
Chris came and ate his snack.
After we had hot cocoa and an egg sandwich.  Michael stayed and chatted with the girls.  The Croatian woman joined us. 
I took mom to brush her teeth, wash her face and use the toilet.


Sunday 1 October 2017

We made it!

Sunday, October 1, 2017
My bus was on time today so I made it for 5:00, but I had already eaten dinner.  Luckily mom had already eaten half her meal otherwise she would insist on sharing it with me. I went to drop off some clothes and water her plants and when I got back, mom was finished except for her banana cream pie which I ate with a cup of tea.  Mom was wearing a jacket today.  She was wearing a summer top and a fleecy.  I thought that was odd.  She was sniffling a bit and coughing.  I gave her some tea.  I wonder if she has a cold.  Her hair looked really greasy.
After dinner I took mom back to the room and put on her headset, but she didn't want to listen to the music.  I thought it was odd.  Turned out she had to use the toilet.
I took mom to the washroom.  Her diaper was pretty clean except for a streak of poop but I removed them.  She had on a pair of underpants already.
I had removed her fleecy and she didn't want to put it back on so I put on her black vest.
I put the headset back on and we went for a little walk.  She didn't want to go outside because it was too cold.  We walked a bit around the lobby.
We played card bingo with the usual group.  Joe joined us shortly after we started the first game.  We had to move to make room for him.  It was fun.
I took mom to the washroom.  I thought that was where she wanted to go.  Sure enough she did a substantial poop.  So glad we made it.  Imagine if we hadn't! I wiped her bum and put her in a diaper.
The group had split up when I got back and the ladies were sitting at the nurses' station.
After hot cocoa and a muffin, I took mom back to the room to brush her teeth and wash her face.
We sang songs by the nurses' station.